For an international meeting, the most useful greeting preparation is specific: ask your host about the occasion, observe the person in front of you, and leave room for a greeting without touch. A country guide can provide background, but it cannot tell you an individual’s preferences.
Before the meeting
Ask the organizer whether there is a greeting protocol, receiving line, or formal introduction. For a diplomatic event, follow the protocol team’s instructions. For a business visit, a simple question to your host can prevent guesswork: “Is there anything I should know about introductions?”
Avoid treating nationality, gender, age, or clothing as permission for physical contact. Religious practice, accessibility needs, health concerns, personal boundaries, and the relationship can all affect what feels appropriate.
At the introduction
Begin with a verbal greeting and a comfortable pause. If the other person offers a hand and you are comfortable accepting it, use light, comfortable pressure and let go when they do. Do not add an arm grab, shoulder touch, or second hand unless that level of familiarity is welcome.
If a hand is not offered, keep the introduction moving with a nod and “It’s good to meet you.” You can also say, “I’ll greet you with a wave.” No one needs to explain a medical condition or personal boundary to decline a handshake.
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When a greeting goes wrong
A missed cue does not need a long apology. Release your hand, acknowledge the moment briefly if needed, and continue the conversation. Avoid interpreting a different grip or a declined handshake as evidence of disrespect.
More practical greeting guides
Compare seven handshake alternatives, learn how to recover when you’re left hanging, or read when to use one hand or two.
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